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What is Eros?
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The book excerpt refers to the definition of Eros as the life energy in body mind health of spirit:
Everyone experiences Eros. The 'spark' or 'vibe' is the first exciting moment when you feel you must connect with this other person, event, or activity. It is your soul's purpose to unify. Eros is the 'spark' that starts the relationship but seems to fade over time. It is the 'vibrational resonance', ' vibe '. You know it when you feel the vibe or feel the 'chemistry' happening within you. At this phase you are fully vulnerable another person. There is an opening to love in the highest sense of the word. It is transformational to your being and this allows a beginning for you to grow. |
- The Eros fades, the spark leaves so you leave the relationship, and you look elsewhere to connect with another soul to recapture that feeling of initial excitement; or
- The Eros fades, the vibe slows, and you stay together and you stagnate; or
- The Eros grows. You continue to grow and reveal your soul to the other person. This is the 'ideal' relationship you all strive for.
So why choose to leave or to stagnate? Understand that it is a choice. You may lack the knowledge or belief to make that third choice of continuing to grow and evolve. Once you understand the choice you must have the will to continually work on yourself to grow as an individual revealing yourself to another to sustain a never-ending spark in the relationship.
The Body and Eros - Biological and Genetic Perspective:
"Your sexuality is important to the perpetuation of that which you are and that's why you were born with such a drive about it. In the same way that thirst encourages you to give the cells of your body something that they want and need. Sexuality is the same thing." - Abraham Hicks Bottom line: You must procreate with as many partners as possible to spread you genetic pattern to create the most diverse combinations of your pattern with other genetic patterns as many as possible to further the species in the most diverse way. This is all your evolution requires. 'Lust' is a biological urge.
Your brain 'chemistry' may cause you to feel Eros with another. On a deep biological level your primitive part of you brain, the brain stem, is telling you what to do. The other name for the brains stem is the reptilian brain because it is part of all animal's brains going back to the reptiles. Through millions of years of evolution you still possess the same biological urges as a salamander or snake. To go even further, you innately contain the universal vibe to have continued desire. Just as new planets form from swirling gases and dust, and the single cell amoeba needs to divide, you desire to continue, expand, and procreate. At this level the urges deal with the basic universe's desire for you to reproduce.
From this biological spark in the brain, you are attracted to a partner on a chemical level - pheromones. In the limbic part of your brain, also known as the "emotional brain', the olfactory brain center is housed. Essentially, you are drawn to a specific individual based on how they smell. The multi-million dollar industry of colognes and perfumes are fully aware of this biological fact.
Another basic instinct judges how your potential partner looks. Does this man possess the physical strength, endurance, and potential to protect me and my offspring? Does this woman possess the ability to nurse, feed, and care for my children? Does this potential partner have the genetic material I need to continue my genetic material?
These biological urges occur whether your mind and emotions like it or not.
The Mind and Eros:
Another part of the brain is the limbic or emotional brain. Note that this part creates hormones or messengers to all parts of the body. You body contains cellular and muscular memories. For example, you would say, "That person touches my heart". Therefore, your emotional brain is not just in your head. Your brain is just part of the mind which includes all the physical organs of your body.
Your mind-body emotional mind thus triggers other feelings given the different people you may encounter.
When you meet someone new you may have an immediate bodily reaction. "When he's around I just lose my breath." "My heart just pounds when I get near him." "She makes my palms sweat." "I can't talk when I get near her." These are just a few of the reactions you may have.
These reactions may occur based on other memories storied in your brain. The third and newest part of your brain (in terms of evolution) is your neo-cortex. Basically, this is your thinking brain, the higher-functions, the part of you brain that makes decisions. In conjunction with memory you may experience these different reactions because they remind you of your first romantic love or of an experience you encountered with someone similar to this new person.
As a human being you relate to your world based on associations you make to other experiences. You don't have conscious memory of early childhood because you did not have any experience to associate to. Thus, you need past experiences to have a memory. In creating new relationships however, this may be detrimental because are reaction would be a "projection" of a past person or event to this new person.
For example, you are sitting in a restaurant having a cup of coffee when someone walks in that you have never met before and you immediately notice he has something on his feet. Your brain rushes around to find an example you had of those so you can recognise that those are shoes. In finding the example, you brain says, "Yes, those are shoes just like my father use to wear." But, you brain doesn't stop associating and continues, "... my father use to kick me with those shoes every time I spilled my drink." You body may have an emotional reaction and you feel tense. The next thing you do is knock your cup of coffee off the table and spill it on the floor. This total stranger with the shoes comes over to help and the next thing you know you are angry and maybe even yelling at him to leave you alone. This is a simple example but it illustrates what happens in a split second. You are "projecting" a past person or event on a current person or event and you are not consciously aware of what is happening.
Who did you first fall in love with? You first fell in love with your parents, guardians, aunts, uncles, siblings, and anyone else who was there during your early childhood. Bonding with those of your tribe is nature's way of self-protection. I'm bonded or in love with you as a small infant and child, and you will protect me.
Since memory is based on association of past people and events, and your first love is of that of your early childhood, then all you current and future relationships are influenced by your childhood.
Taking the same example above, if you had a loving father that use to sit you on his knee while he drank his cup of coffee, chatted with you, and cuddled you, then you would have a very different associative memory experience. This same stranger walks in wearing those same shoes your dad wore when he sat you on his knee drinking his coffee. Now your limbic brain triggers happiness that makes your body feel relaxed, at ease, and loved. How would you feel toward this person now?
The Spirit and Eros:
You tap into a higher consciousness with your thoughts and ideas. You are connected to the energetic oneness of the universe. Your thoughts and consciousness are energy. Your life force is energy. For you, the source energy of the universe is God. Or, God is the universal source of all energy.
"The more I study science, the more I believe in God." - Albert EinsteinYou may have a problem with the concept of "God". There have been many philosophers, scientists, who have debated the concept of "God". Are you more comfortable with the concept of universal source energy? The psychologist Carl Jung has stated we are all covered by a universal cosmic umbrella. Call it cosmic energy, higher-self, universal spirit, or "The Force". Whatever label you may use, in the context of this writing 'God' is may be interchanged with 'source energy', 'super-consciousness', 'higher-self', 'universal mind', etcetera.
Eros in this spiritual context would associate this idea with what you may call a "soul mate" attraction. Since we are all connected you potentially have an infinite number of spiritual mates available to develop relationships on this physical plain. In other words, it is a romantic myth that there is only one soul mate for you.
On the other side of the same coin with Eros, love in all that you do is essential. Seeing your soul mate or spouse to be for the first time, love must be there. Meeting a friend, an associate, or a perfect stranger, love must be there. From walking the dog and taking out the trash, to going to work to washing the dishes, love must be there. Love permeates your very existence.
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